Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Mean Girls Week: Wednesday

A few coworkers decided to do a Mean Girls week from October 23-26 because we all loved the movie and I was down.

Welcome to Mean Girls Week. Here are the Rules:

  • Don’t wear a tank top two days in a row
  • You can only wear your hair in a ponytail once a week
  • On Wednesdays, we wear pink
  • You can only wear jeans or track pants on Friday
  • Be effortlessly plastic

You must take a photo of your outfit every day and share your thoughts.
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I don’t like pink because it is the “girl” color and I feel it’s often a one-dimensional characterization of women because it’s soft and pretty and quiet. Blarg.  I have nothing that’s substantially pink in my wardrobe.Wearing pink is outside my comfort zone and I was dreading Wednesday.

According to the rules, you only need some pink - I said to myself, Maeve (which is apparently what I call myself now), I’m going ALL out. See, the Plastics’ pink-on-pink costuming started that trend in the 2000s that made it ok for you to wear a lot of one color - mainly, pink.

Before that, it was “too much.”

There are voices and pressures that can berate us for being "too much" or "not enough" and a high percentage of that pressure is based on looks. In my experience, dress codes and presentations are directed at how women should look so we can be taken seriously and be successful. So ingrained is this rhetoric that I don’t wear pink as secret rebellion.

My inner-critic told me I should wear a black blazer to mute this pinkness, this girlishness, this unapologetic bubblegum announcement that turns "woman" into "girl"…And I stopped myself.

How brutal is that? I would never tell someone to mute themselves. What if someone really, really liked pink...?

I remembered former coworkers who have neck tattoos and gauges that needed to be muted. Or a transgendered friend who struggled to fit norms in order to be seen – she has to hide who she is to be seen. If you are going to be taken seriously - you have to follow these rules..?

(sad face)

Their skills, kindness and talents are so much more than their aesthetic could ever be. Their expressions of themselves or their moods does not limit them, it limits others. So, I grabbed this glittery necklace over a black blazer. Cause #extra.

Honestly, the areas outside my comfort zone are such luxuries and I lost sight of that while having a mini-tantrum over wearing pink. There are people who might step out of their assigned zone and actually be really hurt.

No one would ever condemn me for wearing pink.

People showing up as they are – to work, to help, to connect – can be a struggle that is beyond my flippant disregard for pink and eye-rolling expression toward those who lecture me on how I need to manage my femininity. There are people whose “on Wednesdays we wear pink” takes an amount of courage I don’t think I have.

Here is what I do know.

There is no way we can innovate in a closed system. I reminded myself to seek out and support who people are. People with unique interests, expressions, perceived or actual disabilities, methods and perspectives open doors and concepts beyond my imagination. I don’t want accepted norms (even my own norms) to become a mental cage that holds me back from making connections.

On Wednesday, we wear pink.

And. I wore pink. (Thanks, Amazon Prime!)

Tuesday, October 30, 2018

Mean Girls Week: Tuesday

A few coworkers decided to do a Mean Girls week from October 23-26 because we all loved the movie and I was down.

Welcome to Mean Girls Week. Here are the Rules:

  • Don’t wear a tank top two days in a row
  • You can only wear your hair in a ponytail once a week
  • On Wednesdays, we wear pink
  • You can only wear jeans or track pants on Friday
  • Be effortlessly plastic

You must take a photo of your outfit every day and share your thoughts.

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I was up late Monday night at the vet, and with worry. As I was starting to sleep, and then at about 3am the kittens sat at the side of the bed and yowled at me until they got attention - and another can of cat food.

I was totally ready to grab jeans from the hamper and be like “oh, I forgot..?” I didn’t even want to shower….or be at work on time…or do this Mean Girls thing. Or leave my foster-babies.

But one of the rules is "Be Effortlessly Plastic."

Putting this look together took effort (because I hadn’t planned it, number one) and as our front desk maven, Kelsey, snapped this picture, a lot of people told me I looked nice and liked the color combination as if I planned it.

But mere hours before this, I was cuddling fragile kittens and wearing cat food and medications as much as I was delivering it. I was rummaging through the litter box for signs of butt-worms. I was worried my foster-kitten wasn’t gaining weight, that one was getting sicker, and tht maybe it wasn’t warm enough. And I forgot to put in my Chewy order so…

AHHHH! WHY AM I DOING THIS MEAN GIRL THING!? MY SHIRT IS WRINKLED!

But, I had to look effortless.

Today was a much needed reminder that when you do everything right, people will wonder if you did anything at all. Or that when your work is flawless, people only see the success and rarely see the work to get there or the billion other things going on around you.

I reminded myself to compliment people on their dirty, miserable, heartbreaking, grinding work that was needed rather than idolizing the success alone. There are no "three easy steps" of effortless success. Being effortless is f**king hard.

Almost as hard as an American figuring out how to get .20ml of amoxicillin based on a 50mg/ml script from a 30g/60ml bottle oral suspension powder…they use the metric system in Africa, though.

So, despite a rough weekend of helicoptering-fostering nurturing my foster kittens and offering support to my fellow rescuers dealing with far worse issues, at the time of this photo, I’m was pretty sure I could take over the world in the right pencil skirt.

I even took the time to straighten my hair – I just missed that huge part in the photo. So, work in progress….

Monday, October 29, 2018

Mean Girls Week: Monday

A few coworkers decided to do a Mean Girls week from October 23-26 because we all loved the movie and I was down.

Welcome to Mean Girls Week. Here are the Rules:
  • Don’t wear a tank top two days in a row
  • You can only wear your hair in a ponytail once a week
  • On Wednesdays, we wear pink
  • You can only wear jeans or track pants on Friday
  • Be effortlessly plastic

You must take a photo of your outfit every day and share your thoughts.

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I worked from home – normally I am in my PJs a little longer as I roll into the day but I got up to make sure I had time to dress the part and do my hair and makeup. I'm a Plastic this week!

Cold, Shiny, Hard, PLASTIC!

I was reminded of when I freelanced and at one point I was working like crazy and not showering and eating nothing but marshmallows with chopsticks as I slowly lost my grip on reality to the saccharine sounds of QVC in the background…

We talk about self-care as something that looks like massages and fitness and family. Today felt a little like a type of self-care that I might have been missing. In having to get dressed up on a day when I didn’t have to made me feel like I was doing it for me.

Like I did something unnecessary for myself that made me feel…nice.

The effort also changed a little of my “lazy” mindset and got me in a groove where I felt more like I could take on challenges with some sass and creativity.

Since it’s cold and my warm stuff is dark and “old lady” looking (black turtleneck and navy pants) I needed to find a way to pop it. And my choice was not by accident.

One of the bases of the costumes in Mean Girls was the mixture of retro styles such as preppy knitwear and patterns based roughly on styles throughout the 1940-1950 with tighter fits and midriff cuts that were modern in the 2000s. The concept of the Rules is based on a time when you did dress up to go to school – fetch retro.

My sweater and pants are modern-classic so I added teal. Teal was used a lot in the 1950 and into the 1960 as a color of trend. BOOM! 

Since I later had to rush a lethargic kitten to the vet – I was also the fanciest cat-lady in the waiting room…


Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Your Going To Be Ok Even There Are People Who Find More Delight In Mockey Then In Being Human

In the pursuit of creating a more compassionate world...

People often misuse "Their/There/They're" and "Your/You're" and "Than/Then" not because they are uneducated, unintelligent or somehow less-than you and deserving of mockery...

Everyone makes these mistakes because we are taught to speak before we are taught to write. Our brains tend to have more practice related sounds to words.

That is why when you hear the sentence:

"Yer (your) Gramps is drunk again!" 

and then

"Yer (you all) all goin' to git in trouble!" 

You understand what is being said even if, on paper, the words are incorrect.

So, let's all be a little nicer on the uptake and acknowledge we probably ALL have made the sound-to-word mistake and give our fellow humans the benefit of the doubt in order to understand the message before we launch into shaming.

End report.

Monday, October 8, 2018

October 2018 Out of Office (OOO)


I like to make feisty Out of Office (OOO) messages for my company people. I mean, who wants to read: "Hello, I am currently out of the office I will return on _____."


BORING.

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Hello,

Nope, I didn’t respond THAT fast. I’m out of office and this is my Ze Out Of Office Form (ZOOM) where assume to know what you are asking and provide answers.

When are you back?
Yes, I have foster kittens

No, uhh when-
Yes, you can donate to the Pet Adoption and Lifecare Society (PALS) (https://www.adoptapet.com/pals) to defer the cost of food and medical.

Where you see yourself in 5 years?
Listening would defiantly be one of my biggest weaknesses.

Anyhow, I will be answering you emails and Jabbers Wednesday, October 11, 2018.

Cheers my peers,
Maddie
Training and Talent Development

Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Mad Digest: Mark Rober's Beat Any Escape Room


BEAT ANY ESCAPE ROOM - 10 proven tricks and tips

I recently got a Roku (not to be confused with RĂ³ka, my comfort animal) so rabbit-holes of content consumption (not to be confused with TB) are emerging in my life.

I actually came across this YouTube gem and it reminded me of the way my industry throws people together and demands excellence. Project are their own Escape Rooms, right? 

So, how does a diverse (or friendly) group quickly come together, solve problems and find success? Or just hack one of dem ‘Scape Rooms?

Here is the content I reviewed:

BEAT ANY ESCAPE ROOM: 10 proven tricks and tips
By Mark Rober

Watch this quick 12min clip for full, glorious details on how you can beat any Escape Room (maybe) and you might be surprised how much these applies to what we do here.

Me Writing A Lot of Junk About A 12min YouTube You Could Just Watch
The host, Mark Rober, talks with Scott Nicholson who is a Professor of Game Design and Development at Wilfrid Laurier University in Brantford, Ontario about designing games that change the world. And also how to hack games.

And…be good at. Stuff.

Mark has implemented Scott’s guidance on how to break records when it comes to solving Escape Rooms.
Our focus here is actually making games to change the world. So a lot of the games we make here have some sort of learning outcome. Our goal is to help get people to learn stuff in a playful way - Scott Nicholson

Here are the 10 tips from the video about solving an Escape Room in record time:

Think simple
Remind yourself that the average person should be able to complete the room in one hour in a well-designed room.

Search 
The first thing you should do is search for clues and items – nothing else. Keep it simple; you shouldn’t have to disassemble a light fixture or spend too much time trying to make a random item into a clue if it doesn’t match the theme.

Organize your stuff
As you find clues and items, put all the things in one location (no one should hold on to something). Group similar items together. This will make it easier to tell what you are missing and a bigger picture should start to emerge. Once you have used an item, put it in a discard pile so no one is confused while working on different puzzles.

Focus on stops
Focus on what is stopping you from moving forward to prevent getting overwhelmed. Address what is stopping forward progress. This will also prevent you from getting side-tracked by red herrings (the bane of ALL gamers).

Team roles
Poor communication is the number one reason teams fail. In Mark’s case, having a "project manager" alleviated the issue of poor communication. The PM does NOT get involved in puzzles, s/he is the person who will cycle through incoming information from the search and call out, "Everyone, we are looking for four numbers for a four digit code!" and the group will then look for that or "Everyone, that poster looks funny, take a look at that."

Lock types
You should be familiar with the most common locks and their inputs such as, combo locks, dial locks and key locks. Know some rare locks like directional locks so you don’t get tripped up by the device itself.

Code types
Know basic codes and cyphers such as Morse code, pigpen cipher or Caesar cipher. Know what they look like and what their keys look like is more important than memorizing solutions. For example, long-short patterns are probably Morse code and a list of numbers from 1-26, probably align with letters in the alphabet (1=a, 2=b, etc.)

Witten clues
When you see text, look for punctuation or grammatical errors as these are often codes within text. Even how the words are typeset on a page can give you clues as to how it can be used. Never take a note at face value. It’s a code.

Look for patterns
In Escape Rooms (or general puzzle games), few things are random. Keep a look out for like items, like colors or groupings of different things. Our brains are wired to find patterns, so, let your brain look for repeating shapes, colors, symbol styles as well as numbers and words.

Your guide is your friend
At the end of the day, you are supposed to have fun, so, if you are super frustrated, just ask for help. It’s better to take a hint and feel the excitement of escaping than being stuck on a task and leaving frustrated.

My policy for the number of people in an Escape Room is the same as the number of people in a tent – no matter what the package says, you’ll have a better time at half capacity - Scott Nicholson
Bonus Round
My takeaways having survived our project workshop errrr...personal Escape Room.

Think simple
Remind yourself that the average person should be able to complete the training and learn the stuff in the allowed time. Keep design simple. You can jazz stuff up later.

Search
Spend time getting items first, aka research. Research should be published, accessible and reviewed. Don’t go digging deeply into wormholes and unsupported or outdated materials. Also, don’t make your learner have to search too hard to find key learning points or apply the points to their next actions after training.

Organize your stuff
Put all your data in one place where everyone on the team can see and access it. This will keep everyone on the same page and prevent overwork or re-work. No one should uniquely hold information or notes. 

A single depository of information will help everyone moving faster and allow them ask better questions (stand on shoulders of giants, people). Once a resource has been fully consumed, move it to an archive/backup folder. Keep only active and truly important resources in the open.

Focus on stops
Look at immediate roadblocks, not the final deadline. Work step-by-step, not “what about in 50 years when ____.” 

Ask: What are the inputs we need to get us to the next phrase and only search for those answers. If you know you will have roadblocks, work backwards not only to give yourself time but to find the inputs to remove it.

Team roles
Assigning project based roles (not so much job title roles) means skills can be used to their greatest potential. 

Have one person who is not doing active work keep visibility to all tasks and activities in order to best direct the team toward the bigger picture. This allows others to get safely buried in the details of each task because someone is watching their back and processing their findings to move everyone forward.

Lock types
From a project standpoint, if you can’t open a lock, let someone else try before you start over. We all perform differently under pressure and pressure removes brain-power. 

Build your own mental catalog of project locks - understanding common lock types means you can make educated guesses: a three-combo lock means you only need 2 inputs, you can guess the last one. Or you might be able to access non-liner problem solving to arrive at resolution: If 1-2-3 combo is the same as 2-3-1 combo, why get bogged down in details of processes that come to the same place? Unlock that sucka.

Code types
Don’t worry about planning and figuring out every aspect of every potential problem and every little detail in order to solve every human, technical, weather, ergonomic, spiritual and task-related issue that possibly could happen. 

You only need to recognize when stuff is getting cryptic and then pull out solutions. Having a general view of what common problems might happen is a better than spending early stages of a project learning how to hot wire a car just in case you lose your keys.

Written clue
If someone is emailing you every hour about progress on a smoothly running project, what does that really mean? If different published sources are saying different things – what does that mean? Often times, requests or stories have deeper clues under the request. 

Look for things out of the ordinary when processing resources, take some extra time to focus on the meaning-type-details so you can, as they say, be more agile.

Look for patterns
You can’t see all the patterns, no matter how hard you stare. Actively cycle people through problems to get new perspectives or to find better ways of explaining something. Everyone has a different design bias and rather than bleaching these out, they should be used wisely. 

If we all have these things, might as well put them to good use.

Your guide is your friend
Have check-ins not only to provide information but to get your bearing and to ask questions. Maybe it seems embarrassing to ask your stakeholder something “basic” but why spend days of frustration trying to figure something out when your stakeholder might be able to hand it over to you? 

Who are your magic-wand people – make them work for you.


Stay humble, stay woke - Maddie